Take Your Own Advice
I'm often asked "Loren, how are you always so positive?" or "How do you get through tough situations?" ... "How do you deal with bullying?" etc. and the truth is, while it's so much easier said than done, and I don't always do it. I listen to my own advice. Not all the time, trust me, I definitely have my moments, more often than not, but there are times where I listen to my own advice.
We are always so good at giving advice, right? #preach -- but how good are we at listening to or taking our own advice? Listen, there are many mental health issues that I deal with [yes some are related to Tourette Syndrome] and some are just because I'm a nervous nelly, so listen up, because I know you or someone you know deals with this too, but we don't talk about it... depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, depression oh and anxiety! And I'll probably want to go crawl under a rock after this, but I guess that's "the power of the screen" (per my previous post). OK, anyways, but how do I stay positive? Even when I'm depressed? Here's a very big and true secret... people who smile and laugh more, live longer and happier lives. Now, seeing as I have a terrible fear and anxiety over the unknown and dying, I'm trying to live forever, so I laugh and smile as much as I can. Also, smiles are contagious; insert smile :)
There are days where I look in the mirror and think "oh goodness gracious Loren, you have gained so much weight" and "ugh your face is just not having a good day, look at all the scars" and yes, I compare myself to other women and of course I cry, because as you all know, I'm quite the crier. But at the end of the day, just because I'm on a TV show or have a lot of followers, doesn't make me any better than any one else: I am a human being, a woman and I deal with mental health issues. For whatever reason, I just have the strength to talk about it. Maybe it is easier talking about it behind a screen. I know I feel so much better talking about it than not. Fact of life: it's easier to talk about things with strangers than with people we are close with because we are always worried about being judged. It is what it is. But in today's day and age, we shouldn't shy away from talking about it, we should tackle it head on!
So, to answer the question, how do I always stay so positive? I stay positive because I feed off of every one of your positive comments and messages. It's a circle-effect... you help me, I help you type of thing. You dig?
Try this: take your own advice. Whether it be about a love situation, or a YOLO (you only live once) situation, whatever it may be... try taking your own advice once this week -- because lets face it, once a day is too much at first and we're working on it together; baby steps.